This Happened (Dolphin Edition)


Searching for sealife.

The last day of my son’s Spring Break, I took him whale watching. The only thing missing from this cloudy + exceptional day was my husband, who had to work, but he was adamant that my son and I get on that boat and have an adventure.

So we did.

Everything-ocean has everything to do with the novel I’m finishing up. To be on a 36ft  Boston Whaler with family and see spouting whales,  to be surrounded by hundreds of common dolphins (nothing common about them, pure magic!), animals so close to us they splashed our faces as they leapt from the water, riding the bow? A lovely way to end Spring Break and great research material for my novel.


We could have touched this dolphin. That close.

My son and I shared video and pictures with The Dadda that evening, after a grueling return from Newport Beach on the 405 Freeway. But–although the drive home was slow, I didn’t mind the delay, not really. Because, like so much else it fixes, the ocean fixes freeway gridlock. Especially if you’re fresh off of a whale watching trip.


Leading the way.

His dinner devoured, in his PJ’s, ready for bed and the beginning of his last few months of 4th grade–our son announced he might have a 7 page Oregon Trail project due the next day at school.



Buoy snoozers.

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scbwiwinI won runner-up (there were only two of us who won in the Middle Grade category). SCBWI-LA Writer’s Day, Skirball Cultural Center . I pitched an agent, connected with a dream agent, dashed around assisting the totally-on-it RA’s, made new writer friends–and it was rainy outside, an absolute bonus: The Skirball looks as lovely in rain and mist as when the sun is shining. Over 200 writers attended! If you’d like to read about the Day, go here: I can’t recommend it enough. The lineup was exceptional. I was so anticipating Gary D. Schmidt’s keynote, as I said in my last post. His talk was filled with advice on being there for children and what ‘being there’ means beyond the printed page. Gary D Schmidt is timeless. Listen, when we meet for tea and scrumptious finger sandwiches? I’ll tell you all about the grounded GDS talk. As long as clotted cream is served with the scones and little cakes comprising dessert.

This is the weird part–if we were having tea right now, I’d pause to refill my china cup  and say: I’m having an exceptionally good time writing AND revising this novel. My first novel felt like ripping my hair out as I carried on writing. Not the case now. Is experience kicking in, at last? Well–I’ll give myself some credit for research, reading, and years of consistently writing. And I’ll just plain go with it.

Because shouldn’t half the fun, if not ALL the fun, be in the process? As you create via a medium you love?

I’m the lady on the far-right, by the way. I was handed my certificate, experienced a coughing fit, fled the auditorium in search of water and returned just in time for the photo.

Yours in positive writing vibes only,


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SCBWI Los Angeles Writers Day 2018


I’m going. Are you?

Gary D. Schmidt is giving the keynote. That’s right, author of one of my favorite YA books: ‘The Wednesday Wars’. You’ve probably already read it, but here’s the SCBWI GDS Interview from 2/16/18. I especially appreciated this part: “I really don’t have any advice on productivity other than to say this: Don’t waste time…Focus on a specific, given set of tasks that are very well defined, and get those done.”

This advice resonates with me. Lately, I’ve surprised myself by morphing from my Organic Crunchy-Granola writing methods (many cups of coffee spiked with coconut milk, scratching chins of cats sprawling around my computer, Alexa blaring my Bent/Sigur ros radio station) into: Taskmistress. Effective! (Although the cats aren’t happy to be kicked out of the office and I’m not that wild about kicking Alexa out, but it’s better, it’s just better). Also, I follow Susan Orlean on Twitter and she tends to tweet word count goals for her writing day. Inspiring. And brings out the Competitive-Taskmistress in me, a whole other writing animal.

GDS will deliver the keynote at the Skirball Cultural Ctr, one of the most beautiful venues


The exquisite Skirball Cultural Center

for any writers day, anywhere. As long as brush fires aren’t concurrent.

There are colors involved with this Writers Day. I’ve chosen the Green Level, but 2 other color levels are also offered. If you’re going, you know what that means. If you’re still in the throes of procrastination, the colors mystery can easily be solved by clicking this link:

I am not getting paid to cheerlead for SCBWI. I’m just excited about showing up (as I did last year), sitting in the esthetically lit theatre and listening. And eating what I hope is a comparable lunch to last year’s, which was Wolfgang Puck-ish in caliber (IMO).

I’ve only just recently learned what IMO means. I have no excuse for being late to the IMO party as I have known for years what LMAO means.

See you there. I’m a volunteer this year, so say hello!

Yours in important hilltop events,


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Madonna Inn–I worked hard to replicate this in my home for Christmas. Thank you, Big Lots and Target.

Usually I’m the one taking our kid on a road trip and usually during the summer, but this week my husband took our kid on a road trip for 2 days to visit family up north and I was suddenly:

a l o n e…

I hit the gym, Trader Joe’s, de-Maddona-Inn-ed our home (see pic), ordered Alexa to play Joni Mitchell as I mopped floors, mopped residue of 3 visiting doggies, aired out guest room, washed towels and rugs and ordered in from The Stand (ahi tuna sandwich wrapped in lettuce instead of bun/extra cilantro aioli sauce–they’ll do that, replace the bun w/lettuce, just ask), reclined on the porch couch-swing in eyes-annihilating sunlight and chatted on cell phone w/older sister and my in-laws who had just departed that day (that’s how much I love them), turned on all lights, inside and out, stayed up late watching the new Blade Runner, woke up at 3 a.m. on the couch, staggered to bed, onto which I invited both dogs, the 2 kittens and my cat, woke up the next morning staring at ceiling thinking: I will find a housesitter.

Mostly I was good at solo living. Both of the L.A. apartments I rented (1 for 4 years, 1 for, thankfully, less) were within walking distance of hiking and I did, I walked and hiked.


You really should visit the observatory

I threw potato soup and wine parties (who doesn’t, when you’re single!). I hosted book clubs and poetry nights. My apartments rocked, the best one in Los Feliz (I could walk to Birds and the Bat Cave), although the Echo Park  apartment, the last before throwing in my lot (including my potato soup pots) with my husband, had an amazing view of downtown and beyond and I wrote well there, inspired by the expansive view: actual trees, the green skyscrapers of downtown, intriguing haze, Griffith Observatory’s domes, occasionally a glimmer of ocean.

My living alone: all good! Except for the panic bits–when I called my older sister, wailed:



When you live in Los Feliz or Echo Park you constantly hear people or maybe even yourself insisting, I WOULD NEVER LIVE IN THE VALLEY, the VALLEY part spoken as if you’ve just stepped in dog poop.

I have never appreciated my scorched valley and our A/C laden home more than with my 2 lights being away.  And though the view here is limited to a bamboo-lined yard, it’s a yard where sword fights and archery matches take place and dogs run wild and a turtle enkitshugojoys her outdoor pen and a fat orangesicle cat sprawls on his back in the forever-sun and this weekend, once my 2 lights are back, we are going to play croquet in this yard with the set Santa brought us.

This valley is fruitful, despite the scorch. Who knew.


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May your day be merry and bright and here are two fast-growing kittens and insert the Christmas emoji here. Peace on Earth mantra in full swing.


The Kits

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Fire Update

phoebeIt’s always an emotional rush to post great news: All evacuations have been lifted in the Santa Barbara fire zones (see previous post pbwrites).

Best news, best news.

In my little bit of the valley it’s blowing like heck again. The hammock has flipped, again. I would call the hammock a turtle on its back, but we have a box turtle and one time she did flip, so forget that metaphor. This time? The hammock stays flipped on our vaguely green lawn–aggravating my inner Martha Stewart. Who cares? I don’t. Fire is 60% contained in SB. Let it blow!

In the photo above, a phoebe is perched on the red chair, searching for insects. I love that phoebes return to our yard. I don’t know if it’s their feather-crest, or seemingly good-natured diligence—but they always make me smile as they dart around our property, audibly snapping up prey—hopefully mosquitoes.


Mittens watching her brother’s tail and about to pounc

Yours in fire-free celebrations (especially if you’re planning on deep-frying a turkey for the first time), yours in phoebes and kittens and little boys who still believe in Santa despite friends telling them otherwise, yours in the lovely snowfall WordPress app, love it, despite so distracting, love it, and yours in Peace,

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The Thomas Fire.

3rd largest in California, making its way to 1st largest.

I watch the burning via my computer, 70-ish miles south of family who live in Santa Barbara, Summerland, Carpinteria. My family evacuate, return, evacuate again due to cold/high pressure systems (meaning destructive weather occurrences stuck on replay?).

Sundowners. Santa Anas. I grew up with both. But not like this.

My advice to news stations: Keep up the aerial views. Pan out. And thank you.

As for us valley dwellers? We turn on our heat in the morning, the A/C around 2p.m. We watch the news, although sometimes we just can’t. We send money to fire victims. We pray for rain.

This is not the new normal. This is insanity.

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Living The Good Old Days

lego“Hey, Mom?” my son said casually as he attached a Lego palm frond to a multi-colored Lego wall he was building on the coffee table as I ironed pertinent clothing near him and my husband raged in front of a Sunday sports event on the wall mounted TV. “Remember that mobile I’m supposed to make?” my son asked.

 “STOP EVERYTHING!” I screamed, and unplugged the iron.

Between bites of his chicken nuggets, my son glued pieces of bark together to form a canoe, created seaweed cutouts and other cutouts as I scoured our arid grounds for sticks as my husband rummaged through office drawers for a ball of rawhide twine as I procured glue and scissors and my husband lashed the sticks that I’d thrown at him with a slow-motion yell: dooooo iiiiittttttt, with the rawhide strips and drilled a hole in the bark and attached our son’s creations to the mobile and suddenly it WAS a mobile and my son had finished his written report that was due with the mobile and the Dodgers lost one of their crucial World Series games and IT WAS TIME FOR BED.

These are the good old days, indeed.

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kit2I didn’t look at Twitter for 24 hours a few days ago. #ROSEARMY

I posted a bit on FB. #metoo

I switched FB from public to only friends. #WTH”FRIENDS”???

I’ve been reading FB and Twitter in bed before turning out the lights. I have NEVER done this before, at least—-not with consistency/possibly commitment and I don’t condone it, and I am doing it. #weirdtimes

I will be the change I wish to see, I have been the change I wish to see, but the “must” part of I must be the change I wish to see—missing from daily life. More like–I’m just constantly processing IT IT IT ad nauseum (see below re: SNL) #it–w/sighs

Yours in more than thoughts and prayers, yours in good health, in mothering selves and children, yours in Love, yours in Peace, and yours in pushing back, yours in watching the BBC Emma Thompson interview, and SNL from last Saturday, and, most of all, yours in the healing effects of kitten power,


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Writer’s Retreat: What Was It Like?

SCBWI Working Writer’s Retreat, September, 2017

The “working” aspect in Working Writer’s Retreat (for me)=the retreat provided printers, so there was no excuse (for me) for not sprinting to my sparse (sweetly existential) weekend bedroom after a workshop, whipping open my laptop and revising my work based on inspiration or comments from said workshops, comments so helpful, I retreatcould have cried into my savory tofu-in-mushroom-sauce dinner (I ticked the vegetarian option), or any meal served in the hall with a view of spreading oaks backed by tranquil sky. Felt transported from Los Angeles into a Buddha’s serene blink.

Workshops were scheduled so that when your roommate was in a workshop, you had the room to yourself to feverishly revise, if you wished. Brilliant.

Each of my workshops featured the same 4 writers (5, with me) presided over by a different agent or editor. So the same 4 writers heard, from me, my same first chapter revised throughout the weekend. This worried me: I didn’t want to keep presenting the same effing thing–but I reminded myself that the ‘same effing thing’ is key to my whole effing manuscript. And I had eagle-eyed critiquers. So–I took advantage of their eyes. Thanks, my group, eagles. Thank you, so much.


Mittens, ready to pounce

Retreat? Yes, but–we were so noisy, us introverted writers, we were asked by Holy Spirit admin to keep it down, as in addition to our retreat, a Silent Retreat was also taking place at The Center.

But Saturday night’s karaoke fest was far too much fun to remember warnings. Only later (shuffling wearily to our rooms), hearing a nearby Encino neighborhood’s rage (uber-peppy DJ w/uber-amplifiers) did we proffer: Oh dear, the silent retreaters must be challenged. And that night I slept as though encased in fathoms. No breakfasts to prepare, no child to ferry to school, no dogs to shoo from licking my hand at 3.a.m.–I was OUT.



Shadow experiencing a ribbon

This was my favorite SCBWI event to date. Retreaters were open to sharing–from critique to favorite authors and kid lit info to pix of pets and kids. Conversations with my roommate were both professional and family-related (I luff her!). I returned home to my husband, son and 2 new family additions–kittens–feeling creatively inspired. A few weeks later, still feeling it. Although fairly sleepless due to kittens. Silent retreaters! Your revenge is complete. Insert smiling face here…

Anticipating next February’s SCBWI Skirball event.

Yours in productivity, creativity and, of course, kittens, PB

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SCBWI WWR 9/2017

Me–prepping for the upcoming SCBWI Working Writer’s Retreat:


streep gif

Will always, ALWAYS be my #1 gif


Fortunately I got in, thanks to iphone alerts, Alexa/Echo alerts, the wall calendar with a particular date circled so thickly in red it could never become invisible, no matter the million times I pass it in my daily life. This event sells out every year. I’m lucky to be a part of it. I’ve had weeks, now, to prep, print, use the read-it-to-me feature on Word, buy a new memory stick and pens and despite doing all that? Despite my writing satchel being (over) packed?

All prep still feels last minute.

Maybe because I’m excited, nervous, terrified of the karaoke aspect included with the retreat (participation highly encouraged–perhaps I’ll get lucky and channel an inner Meryl?), and hoping I remembered to check the vegetarian option when I registered. Also: Must. Not. Forget. Yoga mat.

Yours in conferences completely overrun in helpful critique,

Meryl Streep

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Disaster Adjacent (Eavesdropping Edition)

Time: 1:00p.m.

Temperature: 109 & rising

I was in Trader Joe’s for last minute holiday weekend supplies. I don’t usually notice conversations going on around me in Trader Joe’s as I squint at my list, trying to remember what I forgot to put on it.

But this day, I did. Listen. And whatever TJ’s section I was in—crackers, nuts, where they keep the salmon dip–all anyone was talking about? Weather. Especially since the La Tuna Canyon fire was raining ash city-wide, and actual rain reportedly gushed in pockets of our teeming metropolis, pockets like Reseda (I was witness) and Malibu, but pict-20120612-151635-0not, sadly, La Tuna Canyon.

“Loading up and heading to Malibu. Weather there insane, rain, sun, lightning, but, you know, I LIKE that. Me, personally, I LIKE weather.”
—gesticulating older man in shorts and flip flops to a TJ’s clerk. Clerk told man to have a wonderful time in Malibu, for her. She meant it.

“My daughter’s fine, my daughter’s fine, no, my daughter’s fine, no flooding in her condo? But it ain’t pretty. She’s a new college grad! Wow. Wow. Wow. What an education.”
—TJ’s checkout clerk to a customer nodding rhythmically as she bagged her own goods. Customer was on the verge of tears.

Crowd at the tasting/coffee area–so many people and carts, the thruway was blocked. Two TJ’s clerks behind tasting counter shared info and intel and research regarding floods and heatwaves with crowd. Samples cups were discarded on the counter, littered floor. No subsequent samples were being prepared. Yet no one left the tasting area. Everyone wanted to talk.

“Flashlights, freeze-dried food. Like–meatballs. Ice cream. Space blankets. Solar powered phone chargers. Running shoes in your car, oh, and twine. Like for camping. Everyone has this shit, babe. Come on.”
—TJ’s customer pushing basket super slowly down frozen food aisle, speaking into cell phone balanced between shoulder and ear.

“Bee’s wrap. Shut. Up. Do it.”
—customer on cell phone hovering near my beloved salmon dip.

I took two dips. zumasunsetAnd, seconds later, a baguette.

I thought: I am going home and I am going to revise the crap out of my manuscripts.

Update: Salmon dip w/baguette was, as usual, amazing. Earthquake kit checkup proved we have a solar powered electronics charger, a year’s supply of astronaut food, space blankets, a hand-crank radio, water purifier and loads of other items. I researched bee’s wrap on the internet, but am leaning towards hemp wrap so as not to stress out the stressed out bee population. Late Labor Day afternoon? We took our dinner to Zuma Beach, Malibu. We swam, ate, watched the sun set and dolphins cut through giant, greeny waves. Rain fell on us. Felt like a blessing.

Manuscripts? Revisions? Coming along, Toto, coming along.

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116 Degrees (T-Rex & Gladioli Edition)

Early days of 4th grade for the boy coincide with consecutive days of triple digit heat for valley dwellers, a box turtle possibly on a hunger strike because I won’t put her in her outdoor arena in triple digit heat, melted-looking toadstools popping up around the base of our pop-up outdoor swimming pool, fungi I believe our dog has licked or eaten because suddenly poop abounds, inside house, outside, in reception room of vet’s office, all manner of bugs landing in pop-up pool, mostly–sadly–bees, although I watched a wasp land on the surface, remain for 4 seconds (I counted) then wing-activate and zoom safely away (wasps are the new dragoIMG_2495n-fly? Removed a dead dragon fly from pool, rainbow wings soggy, long body done, so…)

In this heat, I’ve sent love & money & more love & money and this will continue until floods are tiny puddles.

Fire in La Tuna Cyn eating its way over brittle terrain towards suburban Burbank neighborhoods, ash on our cars, ash on the pop-up pool’s cover, ash in the turtle’s outdoor arena, ash smearing my windshield because my wipers suck–here, changing windshield wipers never makes the To Do list. Triple digits, fire and now a mugginess/humidity-soup pushed to us from a storm torturing Baja. Triple digits predicted today. The hottest summer since we moved to the valley 7 years ago. Loved those glorious rains last Fall, but how quickly their good was eaten by multiple heatwaves tucked into all subsequent months, to this month’s 109, 111, 116, etc.

IMG_24964th grade has not included playing outdoors at lunchtime. Will be forcing self to open the next water and power bill. One day, will the turtle forgive me?

I like to watch video of the people dressed up in T-rex costumes, all clumsily making their way across a green in Washington D.C., protesting a latest legislative injustice. I like pondering gladioli. I am grateful for our A/C.

I like sending out prayers for rain. And prayers for closed floodgates. And prayers for rain.

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Write (“Blocked” Edition)

beach5When I “can’t” write:

Elbow–‘New York Morning’ and ‘The Take Off And Landing Of Everything Good’ on my Elbow Pandora station, courteously provided by Alexa/Echo Dot when I talk to her like Kirk talking to COMPUTER in ‘Star Trek’.

My grandmother’s piano + Clementi’s Sonatina in C Major, op. 36, no. 1. Oh. Heck. Yes. Gives me chills. The music, not my playing.

Jackson Browne–on my Jackson Browne Pandora station, see Elbow above.

Acacia Chardonnay–2.75 glasses (possibly 2.99 especially if TGIF). Acacia can be paired with My Grandmother’s Piano bit nicely. And with cooking dinner–yet another distraction, but so necessary.

First Pages: i.e. ransacking my middle-grade-only bookshelves and reading all first pages of all books on shelves. Of course I want the first page of any novel I write to be interesting–but the commercial focus these days is hooking readers within a sentence or two. I get it. I do. I have a 9yo. I get it. However…Okay, is Acacia handy? No? Right. Moving on.

Venting to my son’s school’s librarian, who happens to be a middle-grade author and  so down-to-earth and marvelous and listens and knows and is happy to share wisdom and information. I am a lucky writer to know her. And I don’t vent EVERY time I see her. Do not! Mostly we talk books. Or, books I peskily ask her about. I repeat: I am lucky and grateful and learning. When I speak to my son’s librarian, I want to return home and write/revise.

Zuma Beach: It’s closest to me (half an hour+!!!) and being an ocean fanatic? Well. Hard to make the trek on a weekday. But that’s all right. Hopefully it will never go away: Zuma. Wide open beaches. Ocean.

Yours in sonatinas and oceans,


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Summer Diary


SB Feb 003

  1. Not my rash!
  2. Finally. Fire breath. Thank you, GOT.
  3. I see you, arm muscle.  #workingout6weeksstraight
  4. Muscles missing. Hijacked in the night, IMO. So what? I have brie.
  5. Total eclipse of sun predicted. My prediction? Revision, revision, submissions, submissions….But only because not driving to Oregon.
  6. Box turtle refuses to be content in pen that is not the glorious unbridled wilds of Connecticut. Insists on escape. Like I did when a teenager. (comments closed)
  7. Exercising. Writing. Extracting dog poop from yard. Clearing black widow webs from home’s entryways (not metaphorically confessed). #life
  8. NOT MY RASH! (comments closed)
  9. Family is forever, some “family” forever suspect.
  10. Can’t remember when last visited beach…SAD!
  11. Coming alive in the wee hours, as usual–revising ms. with help of chai tea and ranch flavored rice crackers, and: macadamia nuts. Unsalted. Aloha?
  12. Sleep. Please! Sleep. For me.
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Star Wars vs. Sports (Panic Attack Edition)

I received an email late yesterday afternoon from my son’s summer camp with this subject line: FRIDAY SPORTS DAY. Meaning, send him to camp in a jersey emblazoned in a sports decal.

Last Friday was: STAR WARS DAY

An easy one! My boy dressed in his Luke Skywalker 1/2 robe w/belt, Star Wars T-shirt and shorts, down the sides of which he slid his light sabers, various Star Wars action figures filled his pockets and he had a storm trooper helmet under his arm, “Just in case, Mom!”


My son doesn’t have a favorite sports team. He refuses organized soccer. He tried fencing, but the instructor shouted: THIS IS NOT STAR WARS! and he never wanted to go back. He did karate from ages 4 to 8. He’s done with karate. Or is at the very least on hiatus. He could care less about baseball, or (I breathe a sigh of relief) football. He and his hockey-manic dad attend L.A. Kings games, but our son doesn’t want to actually play hockey (his dad breathes a sigh of relief, having played for decades–cue lingering injuries).

“Do you want to wear a team shirt on Friday?” I asked my nine-year-old. He stared at me like I was cray-cray. “Of course, mom!” he said.

“Huh,” I said, wracking my brain. “Lakers?” “Sure! I like those yellow Laker shirts,” he said, surprising me. “Get me one of those?” he asked. “If you clean your room,” I responded, trying to buy time.

Did he really NOT have a team???

Did it matter?

We rooted for the Patriots in the Super Bowl, but my son never mentions (unlike his dad on a daily basis) Tom Brady or Edelman. He doesn’t mention the Kings. He’s never seen a Laker’s game, on TV or live. I was so confused. So when his dad got home from work I raced to Target, even though my husband insisted his Patriots shirts would fit our son (he cray-crayier than me). Target had no team shirts in my kid’s size, except for the Golden State Warriors (who???), but I did find a shirt depicting a storm trooper basically going-for-the-gold.

I almost bought it.

This morning? I wish I had.

patriots shirt

“Mom,” my son said with a sigh. “I’ll wear my R2 shirt. Team R2!” he added with a laugh.

Best kid ever.


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The New Now

I closed my laptop and asked my waitress, Lila, why she was clearly having a rough day. She started talking to me about her mom.

I almost dropped my glass of lemonade.


Lila’s mom rivals mine and I didn’t think that was possible—I mean, anything is possible, but a mother using a super nice daughter as whipping post, poison pen recipient, heart-punching material (not to mention literal face-slapping material)? For decades?

I thought that was just my mom.


When I was a kid, my mother ran off with a Greek boy-god 15 years her junior, left us little ones with our alcoholic, depressed, out-of-work dad. She sent postcards detailing her explorations of Greek isles as my dad made our school lunches while sipping his morning coffee-with-vodka.

When the Greek boy-god dumped my mother, she reclaimed her kids and added a bad boyfriend to her instant-family. I wasn’t the only one who objected to him, cue my sisters and extended family members. But after Bad Boyfriend threw a patio table over on me, almost knocking out my front teeth because I told him his bullying was not okay, I was the kid at home wrapping my bedroom’s doorknob with string tied to a chairback: alarm system, in case Bad Boyfriend tried to kill me in the middle of the night.

It was the ’70’s. I had no idea CPS existed. If I had? I would have bugged them. Repeatedly. I was that kind of precocious, SAVE THE KIDS! kid.

salt mounds

When I fled ‘home’ at 17, my mother never said: I’m sorry I’m allowing you to go off and marry a misogynist three times your age.

Or: I’m sorry my addiction to abuse has caused you to enter an abusive relationship of your own.

Or: I’m sorry for abandoning you kids for the Greek boy-god.

Or: I’m sorry.

Instead, I got: “Your leaving caused me to have a nervous breakdown and only he (i.e., Bad Boyfriend) helped me through it.”

These days? I practice gratitude: Mr. Wonderful; our amazing son; our home, mini-zoo; our FUN.

It’s hard to imagine I was ever anyone’s whipping post, much less my own mother’s. And yet…she continues to repeat the past.

That doesn’t mean she is successful.

I told Lila.


Lila didn’t agree, or disagree.

But confessed she gave her mother the shirt off her back because her mother unleashed the ME-A-BLACK-HOLE energy and said: I want your shirt. That shirt. Right there. The one you’re wearing.

Lila felt sad for her mother, who at that time was recovering from a stroke. So Lila washed the shirt in her mother’s washing machine. Dried, ironed it. Gave it to her mom-along with a bowl of chicken soup. Shortly after, Lila was b****-slapped again by: Guess who.


Lila doesn’t look like me at all, but we are sisters.

“I can’t imagine treating my son the way my mother treated me,” I told Lila, hoping I didn’t sound preachy. “Can’t imagine treating my 12-17-year-old self the way my mother treated me,” I added. “I think about that 12-17-year-old girl trying so hard to be an adult without knowing how to be an adult and I tell that girl: I’ve got your back.”

Lila looked doubtful, but nodded.

“I’m making progress, is what I’m saying,” I told her.

Lila cried a little as I handed her my therapist’s card. She moved to other tables and I cried a little behind my sunglasses as I packed up my laptop and drove to retrieve my son from his summer camp.

Cue happiness.


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4th Fireworks (“Shh!” Edition)

Happy 4th!

This: fire1

This splendor in this country:


Here, they viewed this:


Our 4th?




Um–Mom? What’s going on?

Visiting family, as we were in the middle of watching ‘Moana’, I cried: OMG TIME FOR FIREWORKS. And my FIL brought us here, to an eerie stretch of road bracing the Indian reservation.

And then, suddenly, this quiet flash of imagery:


I posted on FB that we were the scene in ‘Close Encounters of the Third Kind’ when they’re waiting for the spaceships to fly by. And they flew.


And it was?: Bliss.


Thank you, Soboba Indians, for the show. Thank you, thank you, thank you. I know it was bigger and louder closer, but this was perfect: Surreal, remarkably different, totally unforgettable. And you gave me writing material.

Yours in memorable scenery,


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Vacationing Hypocrite (Monterey Edition)

jellyMy son and I kicked off his summer vacation with a road trip north, first stop: Monterey’s Cannery Row–breezes that had us in our hoodies within seconds of stepping out of the minivan, views of the bluey bay, an aquarium, wildlife (captive otters in the aquarium, wild otters spotted from aquarium windows overlooking the bay), a hotel on the Row, upstairs room with a door that popped open in the middle of the night (chained, luckily–when I went down to the front desk to ask them about it, they assured me doors popping open never happens and that the hotel wasn’t haunted–I did not ask if the hotel was haunted–but that’s what they offered up), traces of Steinbeck and Ed RickhotelAetts on building fronts, down alleyways leading to tidepools, tourists with bemused smiles until 11pm when the Row (surprising me, having read the novel multiple times and fashioned a certain impression) emptied of people and cars–instant night-calm as my son slept and I revised WIP’s before a fire in the grate (yes, Cannery Row was cold enough for a fire) appreciating the clammy cool vs. 100+ degrees in our broiling valley-of-home.

The only thing missing was my husband, who stayed behind to tend our ponderosa.

Our hero.

I encouraged my son to lead the way through the aquarium and he did, indoors, outside, upstairs, down into the Open Ocean exhibit where we gazed into a dimness housing swooping rays, bluefin tuna and, suddenly, from out of the water-gloom a hammerhead shark swimming straight for us. Ummm–seeing what I’m seeing? I asked my son. Wow, he murmured as the shark veered from us and swam off, returning a minute later, making tourists gasp above the chamber’shammer New Age music. Pretty amazing, my son said.

Jellies, sunfish, ever-descending grouper, rays and otters (rescues? I don’t know) and shorebirds (rescued, many rehabilitated and sent back to the beach)–but a hammerhead? My son explored other Open Ocean exhibits while I continued to watch the shark. I don’t like zoos. I do like the opportunity to appreciate/study our planet. So I’m a push-me/pull-ya zoo/aquarium-goer (although never Sea World). I hope I won’t meet a hammerhead in the real open ocean–but that doesn’t mean I relish watching from safety as one cuts endless circles around its cage. Way too Sea World-ish for me. Quite sad. Quite beautiful. Necessary? Look: A quote by Thoreau the aquarium displays boldly on a wall makes the joint as hypocritical as myself.


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Where I Discovered Poetry Last Weekend



And here:


How my family inspired me last weekend?

Via this:


And this:


And this:


What it feels like to finish a pre-mini-vacation writing goal and move to the next?



Came down with the flu upon returning from family shenanigans. However, today I’m well enough to sit up and revise w/pillows. Also watched that movie, ‘Unacknowledged’,  in throes of flu-delirium, and it gave me ideas for my other novel I’m revising. Yes! (coughing-fit/aches). Let’s share snacks and orange juice (separate glasses) on the wellness train.

Yours (in bedridden productivity, surely the hardest kind),



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Inspiration (Mother’s Day Edition)

mdayWhat inspiration looks like. Feels like. That guy, reading me his MDay card.

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Daisies uncertain how to proceed in 90 degree heat: To die or bloom?

May Day! May Day! May Day! (a few days late, but—-)

90+ degrees today, again. My Spring yard is shriveling. I thought this wouldn’t happen until next month. Silly me! When the Arctic is melting! Doh. The box turtle and the ‘keets, however, are thrilled with the weather. Their daily outdoor-time is extended well through the dinner hour and close to the kid’s bedtime. (‘Keets are gently misted throughout day–they do not overheat–turtle has several water dishes, sprinkled greens and adequate shade-cover in her outdoor habitat–do not fear–I am a diligent mini-zoo-keeper–aren’t you?)

I finished revising my MG novel, made my deadline, but have extended it in order to re-examine/tweak the climax. Keep Calm & Tweak On (but not like Miley).

May your May Day be filled with calm revision.


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Third Eye (April Edition w/Cat)

dig1Woke up at 430am, pressed on with the last 40 pages of revision, my 3rd eye drowsy, but game.

Now that I’m wide awake, overly caffeinated and the little boy is at school and the husband is off to heroic business AND THE CASE-OF-THE-LOVIES CAT HAS HIT THE CAPS LOCK WITH HIS PURRING GIRTH, gotta go.

Yours in revision and occasional fist-pumps when writing is right (even if has meant killing sentences previously known as Darlings),


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Heat Wave Revision

SB Feb 003Today’s spring temperature high is predicted as: 86F.

Which, in my sweltering valley, probably means: at least 90F. If not more.

The MG novel I’m almost finished revising (this time around) has everything to do with global warming, pollution, the (mis)use of chemicals and how humans dearly cherish and how humans mistreat our planet. So–this current revision session is not tedious.

Not at all.

Yours in timely edits,


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Coffee Kick & Go (Tremble Edition)

msIt may be poetry month in the USA, but here at PB Writes the author was up late revising her MG novel, prepping it for the agent requesting a read. This sweet, cool and sunny spring morning–after creating pancakes-secreted-with-carrot-puree for the boy, feeding the home zoo, blending the spouse’s energy drink, coffee w/coconut milk at hand–she’s back at it, ready to re-revise-revise the first quarter of the novel before moving on to the next quarter. Or she will be revising once she stops writing this post. Ha, ha! Oh, PB! You go, Girl. Er–or something like that. And maybe eat some yogurt because your fingers betray a certain caffeine-tremble. Tsk!

Here’s to a day filled with red ink and writing progress (a Trader Joe’s run, dry cleaning pickup, phonecalls to VIP-types, cat to the vet for shots, 30 mins on the treadmill–this is why PB writes at night so often). And maybe, if you have time between chapters or latest stanzas or if your muse confiscates your coffee and kicks you away from your manuscript, check in with The Dad Poet’s poetry month postings. Also, Claire has the skivvy on this year’s Bailey’s Women’s Prize For Fiction authors.

Shhh! Time to work. Off you go now, you, you and YOU, too. Daylight’s burning!

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